ELI5: how to stop being a stressball

What does it mean to be a stress ball?

Being a "stress ball" means you're like a toy that everyone squeezes when they're frustrated—you're absorbing all of other people's stress and anxiety instead of dealing with your own feelings [5]. It's like being a sponge that soaks up everyone's bad emotions but never gets wrung out.

Why do people treat you like one?

People treat you like a stress ball when you're always available to listen to their problems, help them with everything, or let them vent without them asking how you're doing [5]. They keep squeezing because it makes them feel better, but nobody thinks about whether it's hurting the ball.

How does it feel?

It feels exhausting and lonely, like you're constantly being used but never appreciated—similar to how an actual stress ball gets worn out from being squeezed over and over [5]. Your emotions get pushed aside because everyone else's needs come first.

How do you stop being one?

You need to set boundaries by saying "no" sometimes, taking breaks from helping others, and sharing your own feelings with people who care about you [5]. Think of it like a stress ball that finally gets to rest instead of being squeezed all day.