ELI5: how do i control my rage

What is anger and why do I feel it?

Anger is a feeling your body creates when something seems unfair or wrong [2]. It's like your brain's alarm system going off, but sometimes the alarm is too loud and makes you do things you regret [1].

What happens in my body when I get angry?

When you get angry, your heart beats faster, your muscles tense up, and your brain gets ready to react quickly [4]. It's like your body is preparing for a fight, even when fighting isn't the answer [3].

How can I stop anger before it takes over?

The best trick is to pause and take slow, deep breaths as soon as you notice you're getting mad [1]. Count to ten, go for a walk, or splash cold water on your face to calm your body down [5].

What should I do after I calm down?

Once you feel better, you can talk about what made you angry in a calm voice instead of yelling [2]. Tell people how you feel using "I" words like "I felt hurt when..." instead of blaming them [4].